Generalizations in Conversations
“I hate you for always…”
“How come you never…?”
“Always” and “never” are forms of generalizations that you need to avoid in your conversations as a couple. These generalizations are counterproductive. They go against the practice of distinguishing.
You can communicate in a more powerful and productive manner when you use distinctions, rather than generalizations. You must not ramble about generalities about your relationship and your partner. Instead, you see and speak the truth. Because, when you say, “You always make me feel bad,” then this is not really the truth. Do your partner always make you feel bad? He or she might make you feel bad a lot of times, but he or she certainly cannot do it all the time.