The things about you that are different are what will set you apart from others, even from your partner. Every single person has unique things about themselves that they can either suppress out of fear of being different, or direct towards something beautiful and powerful. In a relationship, you need to embrace these differences and allow them to come together in love, rather than in conflict.
Werner Erhard tells us that everyone can be great, for so long as they recognize and accept their uniqueness, and express this openly. I think this is true for relationships as well. Every relationship can be great for as long as we accept the unique qualities we have as a couple, and we understand that we express love differently.